While I do not claim to know all the causes and roots of people’s problems, I do know that there are answers to all of man’s problems and I also know that all the answers are in Jesus Christ.
Please read this distress message carefully, and let’s talk about what possibly could be the problem of the writer and what the way forward is.
Distress Email #1:
Tears All Over
I am in a great distress, tears are running like a river. I would like to control it but this is too much. The man who proposed to marry me told me that his uncle had finally got for him another woman. I am dying. I really don’t know what to do and I have nowhere to turn my head. Please tell me what to do…
Our distressed writer is presumably of marriageable age. She is obviously heartbroken and very distraught at the moment. As I type this, I cannot help but be blunt in stating what is the most obvious fact here. This lady, like many others out there, does not know who she really is, and may not have a sense of how much she is truly worth. She did not mention if she is born again of the Spirit of God or not, but I can tell that her major problem is one of low self worth and, an identity problem.
If you are reading this, and you are in a similar position as the writer of Distress Email #1, be assured that there is hope for you. The end is still very much far away. You have lived for quite a while, not knowing who you are and what you’re really worth. Today, you get to know.
The Psalmist writes in Psalm 139:13-17 (AMP)
13 For You formed my innermost parts;
You knit me [together] in my mother’s womb.
14 I will give thanks and praise to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
Wonderful are Your works,
And my soul knows it very well.
15 My frame was not hidden from You,
When I was being formed in secret,
And intricately and skillfully formed [as if embroidered with many colors] in the depths of the earth.
16 Your eyes have seen my unformed substance;
And in Your book were all written
The days that were appointed for me,
When as yet there was not one of them [even taking shape].
17 How precious also are Your thoughts to me, O God!
How vast is the sum of them!
It is important that you know, just as the Psalmist did, that God put in considerable time, exerted energy, paid very close attention to detail, and showed real unequaled care in your “creation” process. He didn’t just ruffle off some old, cold and ugly clayey substance together, while mumbling some who-knows-what, godly mumbo-jumbo, to Jesus and the Holy Spirit. He gave His best, and very lovingly placed you in your mother’s womb, ensuring that all went very well till you were born.
Like the Psalmist, you should be thankful that, you are fearfully and wonderfully made! The lack, or ignorance of this basic knowledge has led many to believe, and act like second rate citizens, including many who have been saved by grace. By this, I refer to the born again Christians, whom I expect to know more than the ordinary people of the world.
Have you seen a British Aristocrat walk into a room before? His head is held tall, shoulders held high, having a posture and attitude that simply says “I am an aristocrat, and I know who I am”.
I particularly know who I am, and I tell it to all who care to listen. I am a god, a son of the Most High God. You can either accept it, or go beat yourself up over it. i really don’t care which you choose to do. It’s as simple as that. If “Distress Email #1” knew who she really is (a handi-work of Jehovah, the Most High God), she won’t beat herself up so much just because a man who obviously does not deserve her left her for someone else. Who needs a man who whose Uncle chooses a bride for anyway? Not any woman in my circle of friends.
So my advice to “Distress Email #1” and anyone like her reading this, is this: see yourself the way God sees you. Say it loud every waking moment of your life – “I know who I am”. “God says I am an a royal priesthood, a peculiar person, a chosen generation, a holy nation (1 Peter 2:9). That’s exactly who and what I am, and not what anyone says about me.”
Secondly, “Distress Email #1” has a self worth issue. The seventeenth verse of the scripture quoted above, shows the Psalmist declaring loudly, and boldly (I believe); “How precious also are Your thoughts to me, O God! How vast is the sum of them!” He knows that the net-worth of God’s thoughts for and about him are …( I can’t seem to know how many zeros and comas are in there).
You need to know it deep within you, and declare same too. “God’s thoughts for me are good and not evil!” (Jer. 29:11). I am co-heir with Christ (rom 8:17)! The more you proclaim these words from the bible, the more you build your self esteem and confidence, and no one can take that away from you without your permission.
In conclusion, I’ll ask Distress Email #1 to walk away from that doomed relationship, and move on with her life, unto greater things, and greater levels in life. The man in question surely does not deserve her. I think you agree with me on this. Jesus loves her far more this man could ever muster the guts to. There is someone great out there who will love and cherish her as God has destined it to be. She only needs to walk confidently in the knowledge of who God says she is, and the right man will locate her as she prays to God to bring him her way.
If you are not born again yet, you need to do so now. Simply confess your sins and wrong doings to Jesus, ask for forgiveness and ask Him to be Lord of your life henceforth. It is not as hard as I made it sound. Simply say this prayer:
“Lord Jesus, I am sorry I have sinned against you. Please forgive me of all my sins. I submit myself to your Lordship, and I give myself up to you from this day on. Thank you Jesus for forgiving and accepting me. I worship you Lord. Amen!”
Welcome to the family of God. You are now saved if you prayed that prayer.
Feel free to drop your comments and questions here or mail them to firstname.lastname@example.org. You can trust that I would respond ASAP.
God bless you. Amen!