“MY DADDY SAYS…”
I am sure you’ve heard the above expression in many quarters, many of them literate and enlightened. Well, I have and quite amusingly I have come to the conclusion that my daddy is not always right.
Don’t get me wrong. I love my dad and mean no disrespect to him.
So, you ask a person what his thought is on a subject matter and he goes into a litany of stuff his daddy said. So, you ask a beautiful lady what she thinks about the economic policies of the current administration and she begins her reply with the expression “My daddy says…”
The question for me is this – “Is ‘My daddy says…’ a sign of not knowing and not wanting to know or is it a sign of respect to our old folks when we quote them in speeches whether they are correct or not?
Let me explain. One of the things I grew up with (I’m not certain which of my daddies said this to me) is; “Don’t start what you can’t finish”. This expression has been said in relation to being nice and overly caring to a spouse. I was warned and I’m still being warned that when you start off a relationship being really nice and overly caring to a lady that you stand the risk of her being all sulky and suspicious any day you forget or skip to be nice and caring.
Maybe that’s why Nigerian men try hard not to be Mr. Nice, preferring to play, talk and act Mr. Tough all the time in and out of the bedroom; particularly outside the bedroom.
Well, I believed this notion for a while. Now I know better. Women are not daft to not know when their men have lots on their tables and on their minds enough to forget to open the car door or pull out the chair. I am certain that a real woman (by real, I mean virtuous) knows when her man is stressed out, worried, preoccupied and concerned over money issues, projects, family issues and even issues that relate to the woman herself. And of course, men like me (yeah, like me) who are genuinely nice and caring do get genuinely carried away with stuffs enough to forget to bring in the clothes from the line or make dinner on time when we get home before ‘Milady”. This doesn’t make us uncaring or un-nice.
What is the conclusion then? I’ll tell you these categorically:
That your daddy says it doesn’t make it correct.
That your daddy does it doesn’t make it right either.
That your daddy thinks it doesn’t mean you should think it.
Your dad isn’t always right, except your dad is God, The Almighty.
So the next time you’re about to open your mouth to say “My daddy says…”, think about the correctness, rightness or wrongness as well as truthfulness of the words that’ll follow before you utter them. Be good enough to yourself to do your own research on thoughts and opinions you pick up here and there before you share them as facts.
My daddy also said he loves me. On this one, he’s right.